0:00 Replacing the Worthless Past Self w/ a New Perfect One
1:45 Fragmentation / No Coherent Sense of Self / The Ego
4:52 Obsession w/ a Celebrity & Modeling Herself After Her
7:30 What Happens to the Past Self? Emptiness & a PD
12:40 “NPD sucks the life out of you”: Lost Passion and Regret
14:35...

0:00 Intro / Healing from Trauma
3:02 Shutting Down / Struggling to Label Feelings / Avoiding her Diagnosis
6:35 Trauma with Women / Competition / Fear of Judgment
15:03 Struggling to Want Connection / Fear of Being a Fraud / Using People for Selfies
17:33 Safety Strategies / Waiting Until People...

0:00 "It Was Everything I didn't Expect" / Expectations of Control
2:06 Feeling "Looked Down On" / Getting Defensive
6:20 What She Got Out of the Session w/ Karen

0:00 Wanting to Know Why She's Miserable Even Though Self-Aware
0:42 Feeling "Hollow" No Matter What She Does
2:18 Needing to Be Understood & Doubting Anyone Can
5:12 Fearing Being Understood / Not Being "Fascinating" Anymore
6:56 "Groundhog Day" of Disappointing, Empty, Boring Life
10:36 Wishing...

0:00 Intro Thoughts / Tessa Looking for a Transformative Experience
1:08 Maintaining Sense of Self: Internally vs. Externally / "Fakeness"
3:50 The Dilemma of Getting Better
7:51 Tessa's Construction of a New Self / The Split Between Old and New Selves

0:00 Therapists as Guides / Feeling Listened to / Igor's Understanding
2:43 Letting Go of Wanting to Impress / Igor's Non-judgment
3:38 The Question of "Her" Celebrity Being Flawed
5:18 What She'll Take Away From The Session / Breaking Free
7:07 Reconnecting with Her Parents

0:00 Intro / Orientation to MBT
4:20 Participant Introductions
9:56 Definition of Mentalization
13:31 Tessa on Performance, Avoidance, and Showing Up
16:31 Reflections on Mentalizing | Jacob's Example
21:22 The Mentalizing Stance | Curiosity | Strengthening the Muscle
22:47 Tessa's Difficulty w/ ...

0:00 "Problem Round" Setup: Choosing Specific, Recent Patterns to Mentalize Around
2:16 Tiffany's Pattern— Social Media Comments & Self-Esteem
4:36 Jacob's Pattern -- Impression Management & Missing Out on Depth / Connection
11:52 Tessa’s Pattern — Persistent Disconnection
15:30 Unruh: Finding Co...

0:00 Intro & Homework Setup
1:21 Tessa's Homework: Mindfulness of Others, Anxiety
6:46 Tiffany's Homework: Radical Acceptance & Friendships
11:30 Jacob's Homework: Invalidation, Self-Validation & Motivation
16:43 Guided Mindfulness Speaking & Listening Practice
21:10 Reflections on Mindful Practi...

0:00 Balancing Teaching w/ Participants' Viewpoints/Experience
1:24 Importance of Homework & Practice in DBT
4:14 Radical Acceptance / Mindfulness
5:21 Definition of "Mindfulness" / Light Analogy
8:28 The Point of the Mindful Speaking Exercise
12:42 Closing / Appreciation

00:00 Why DBT? / Dialectics & Skills Training
03:55 DBT’s Focus on Behavioral Change vs. Insight-Oriented Therapies

0:00 Not Wanting to Suffer Anymore / Being Self-Aware Hurts
3:10 Motivations for Coming Here / Perfectionism / Being Admirable / Trauma Getting in the Way of Connection / Facing Reality / Boredom
11:12 Being Open to Engaging Now vs. in the Past / Anger / Relationships
15:34 Trauma & PTSD / Humili...

0:00 Intro / Healing from Trauma
2:59 Shutting Down / Struggling to Label Feelings / Avoiding her Diagnosis
6:32 Trauma with Women / Competition / Fear of Judgment
15:16 Struggling to Want Connection / Fear of Being a Fraud / Using People for Selfies
17:48 Safety Strategies / Waiting Until People...

0:00 Intro / "It Was Everything I didn't Expect" / Expectations of Control / EMDR
6:12 Feeling "Looked Down On" / Getting Defensive
10:24 Getting Triggered & Showing Emotions / Jacob Comparisons
21:54 What She Got Out of the Session w/ Karen / Outro

0:00 Wanting to Know Why She's Miserable Even Though Self-Aware
0:39 Feeling "Hollow" No Matter What She Does / Trying EMDR, CBT
3:53 Needing to Be Understood & Doubting Anyone Can
7:18 Fearing Being Understood / Not Being "Fascinating" Anymore
9:18 "Groundhog Day" of Disappointing, Empty, Boring...

0:00 Intro Thoughts / Tessa Looking for a Transformative Experience
1:13 Maintaining Sense of Self: Internally vs. Externally / "Fakeness"
4:05 The Dilemma of Getting Better
8:14 Tessa's Construction of a New Self / The Split Between Old and New Selves
12:12 Developing a Better Relationship w/ Pa...

0:00 Therapists as Guides / Feeling Listened to / Igor's Understanding
2:45 Letting Go of Wanting to Impress / Igor's Non-judgment
3:42 The Question of "Her" Celebrity Being Flawed / Emulating the Celebrity & Getting Rid of the Past Self vs. Integrating It / Imposter in Her Own Body
13:00 What Sh...

-Tessa has nice things to say about Igor's style of therapeutic conversation.
-Feeling comfortable opening up.
-Etc.

0:00 Intro / Orientation to MBT
5:00 Participant Introductions
10:45 Definition of Mentalization
14:22 Tessa on Performance, Avoidance, and Showing Up
17:22 Reflections on Mentalizing | Jacob's Example
22:20 The Mentalizing Stance | Curiosity | Strengthening the Muscle
23:45 Tessa's Difficulty w/...

0:00 "Problem Round" Setup: Choosing Specific, Recent Patterns to Mentalize Around
4:35 Tiffany's Pattern— Social Media Comments & Self-Esteem
7:47 Jacob's Pattern -- Impression Management & Missing Out on Depth / Connection
15:25 Tessa’s Pattern — Persistent Disconnection
21:32 Unruh: Finding Co...

0:00 Intro & Homework Setup
1:19 Tessa's Homework: Mindfulness of Others, Anxiety
6:48 Tiffany's Homework: Radical Acceptance & Friendships
11:38 Jacob's Homework: Invalidation, Self-Validation & Motivation
16:49 Guided Mindfulness Speaking & Listening Practice
21:14 Reflections on Mindful Practi...

0:00 Balancing Teaching w/ Participants' Viewpoints/Experience
1:27 Importance of Homework & Practice in DBT
4:19 Radical Acceptance / Mindfulness
5:38 Definition of "Mindfulness" / Light Analogy
8:49 The Point of the Mindful Speaking Exercise
13:07 Closing / Appreciation

00:00 Why DBT? / Dialectics & Skills Training
04:41 DBT’s Focus on Behavioral Change vs. Insight-Oriented Therapies.