00:00 Intro / Bancroft's background
06:46 Abusers' Ideas of Service / Enforcement / Entitlement
09:18 Defining Physical Abuse & Other Types of Abuse
13:55 Abusers Want an Unequal Relationship
15:56 How Do You Know You're In An Abusive Relationship?
20:21 Backing Away From An Abuser
22:08 Abusers Can Look Totally Normal In Other Contexts
24:38 The Abuser Mentality: "You're On This Earth To Make Me Happy"
29:30 Does the Abuser Know What He's Doing?
33:16 Why It's Hard to Leave an Abusive Relationship
35:25 Why NOT to Tell the Woman to Leave the Relationship
40:10 Why Couples Therapy Isn't the Solution / Societal Training
44:06 "Narcissist" or Domestic Abuser? Personality Disorder?
49:23 You Can't Judge a Batterer from the Outside
50:55 The Problematic Underpinning of Psychology
54:09 Problems with Family/Couples Counseling for Abuse
01:00:55 Love vs Respect in Relationships
01:03:45 The Abuser Tactic of "Defining Reality" / How Can She Hold onto Reality
01:10:42 How to Help Your Children if You're In an Abusive Relationship
01:17:34 How Abusers Sow Divisions Between Moms and Children